#640: advice.

i'm not really qualified to impart any advice.

but let me do so anyways.

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a lot of brides have told me that the week before the wedding is CRAZY NUTS INSANE CRAZY and CRAZY. they just want it to BE OVER...like COME AND GO already. have i used enough CAPS to EMphasize my WOrds.

i've heard it so often since even before i got engaged...that i actually did the unthinkable, peeps.

i didn't procrastinate.

i gathered. i prepared. i gameplanned. i action-listed. i delegated. i coordinated. (uh, this blog? hello?)

and...

...i'm now at the point where i will be totally and completely letting go of all reigns to let the people who have stuff to do, actually do what they're supposed to do.

it's not like i'm not going to have stuff to do or figure out or finish. but i don't think i'm going to WIG OUT right before the wedding worrying about all the details (and there are a LOT of details to figure out. no really. a lot.)...because i've taken care of everything beforehand.

and certainly, when the wedding day arrives, i'm not going to sweat the minutia. i'm not going to have an ounce of concern. i'm going to cruise. i mean. this isn't natural, of course. it'll take effort on my part to not want to oversee every little thing on the day of...but i will work hard to keep those things out of my mind. other than that, my biggest 'job' will be reminding myself to be in the moment, to take in as much as i can, to smile and hug and touch up any smeared makeup.

that's it.

ANYWAYS. so. i guess my advice here is two-fold.

1) don't procrastinate.
2) don't forget to enjoy yourself during the planning process.
2.5) ...and on the day of.

me personally? i think #2 is harder. it's easy to get really wrapped up in the stress, anxiety, and the CONTROL part of planning...and unbeknownst to yourself, letting that become your entire experience. there were times when i had to check myself...and looking back, i'm so glad i did. because i've never once thought -- "i want it to be over already" or "planning sucks" or etc. it's been a joyride for the most part, ladies. and i guess i'm saying what i'm saying because i wish the same upon you.

...and with my own wedding date getting closer and closer, it almost feels like the beginning of the end for this blog, doesn't it?

i don't know.

have a great weekend. xoxo.
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